Sometimes it seems that the human physique and nature responds well to fight or flight, depending on the circumstances that a person might encounter. From among these two options we respond unusually well to the fight option, maybe because we are very obsessed with gaining control over another person. Parents are also human beings and therefore they sometimes fight over different issues with each other. Though fighting in front of your children is not considered good, still the fighting can continue until the shouting and yelling brings down the house. Healthy partner conflict resolution is an extremely useful tactic to employ whenever a fight breaks out between a husband and a wife. This will send a good message to your children because you are teaching them different conflict resolution techniques that will guard them against trouble in the future.

The Children Have Eyes and Ears Too

We sometimes agree to disagree or disagree to agree over certain issues. This doesn’t mean that the heated conflicts taking place between us should also creep up the spines of our kids. The most wonderful part of parenting is to observe children see their parents working out disagreements in a civil and decent way. There’s this spark in their eyes that can’t be easily missed. While the kids are looking up to you, make sure that you treat your spouse respectfully and in return teach your children that as long as love is thriving at home, nothing can take them apart as a family unit. Yelling at each other in front of kids should also be avoided at all costs.

There are different things that parents can do in order to avoid a conflict in front of children. Here are a few ideas to help you cool off when the going gets hot.

Keep the Balance: If you show maturity while discussing a burning issue with your partner and try to keep the discussion balanced without getting angry or depressed, be sure that your children would benefit much from this approach as they would be able to solve problems in ways other than yelling at each other.

Irritated Partner: When you see your partner getting irritated during a fight, it is better to take a deep breath and pause for an instance to think whether the person standing in front of you is an enemy or one of your own. By doing so you would get a clearer picture whether the occasion calls for a fight, flight, or using neutralizing efforts.

Express Concerns without Attacking or Blaming: If you don’t like a certain habit or personality trait in your partner, it is important to tell your partner clearly what it is that might be bothering you. Just don’t blame or attack your partner verbally when doing so because things could escalate fast if communication is poor.

Deal with the Issue at Hand: Stop yourself from piling on a list of complaints that might not be relevant to the argument you’re having with your partner at a certain point in time. It is advisable to deal with one issue at a time so that there won’t be any margin for resentment to take over a person’s heart.

Discuss Biting Issues Later: If one or both partners have difficulty swallowing their anger then it is better that both partners discuss the issue late at night after tucking in the children for bedtime. Listen to each other once you sit down to solve the issue at hand. Be warned that adopting this method requires a lot of maturity from the parents engaged in conflict resolution efforts.

These and other relevant approaches to this issue could very well prove to be important lessons for children because they would follow your lead in as many things as possible before they learn to handle things on their own. Healthy partner conflict resolution techniques are essential in keeping peace at home and teaching your children the esteemed way to deal with conflicts.