The foundations of nature are not based on a justice system of any sorts. This is true for Mother Nature and human nature since both can work in very unpredictable ways. If you believe this to be so then why do we pinpoint a parent for tilting in favor of one child as compared to the other? If you don’t agree with the above statement then why do you tilt in favor of one child as compared to another? The intention here is not to question the love of parents for their children, but to decide whether favoritism amongst one’s offspring is a good or bad thing because parents do have a favorite child as authentic studies prove so. As natural as this process may be, the problem arises when your teen son/daughter thinks that he/she is not your favorite child. How will you deal with such a situation? Obviously by learning more about the unpredictability of your nature.

Made In Your Image

A parent’s love for his/her kid/s is true, strong, and infinite. Most parents do admit that the love that they feel for their children is delivered equal to each child but the favoritism for one particular child still doesn’t stop.

Sometimes parents try to look for their image in the children they bring into this world and the closest possible match creates an instant spark between the parent and the child. It’s okay to feel strongly for one child at the expense of the other because that is how nature created us.

A recent survey conducted by researchers from the University of California proves that favoritism does exist within all family. The survey worked with 384 sibling pairs and their parents for three years. Per the results of the study, some 65 percent of mothers and 70 percent of fathers showed preference for one particular child.

In another research study siblings were asked about their mother or father’s favorite child. The results showed that mothers mostly prefer their first-born son while fathers showed strong preference for their youngest daughters.

These and other studies prove that the parents’ favorite child concept is real and have the potential to do damage to a child who feels emotionally neglected. Parents should take special care that their teen offspring doesn’t think that he/she is not the favorite child. If you see this kind of feeling developing in your teenage son/daughter you should act quickly to pacify the situation and prevent negative emotions from building up.

Problem With Picking A Favorite

Stephen Scott, Professor of Child Health and Behaviour at King’s College London, has shared with the world excellent research about the impact of family favoritism with pairs of identical twins. He wanted to see how favoritism affected children.

Professor Scott and his team talked about the good and bad points of identical twins with parents over a period of several years. Later the researchers talked with the teachers of the schools where the twins studied and asked them how these children behaved there. After compiling their results, the research team found out that the twins who were favored by their parents were very confident and sociable. In addition they did well at school. The pair of twins whose parents had spoken negatively about them had to suffer at school. Moreover, the least favored twins also had fewer friends, were more anti-social and were naughtier than the other siblings.

It is your duty to treat all your children in such a way that they don’t feel left out. You can’t always control your nature but you can keep it in check; emotions and everything else included. Pick a favorite if you like but give credit to the other children where it is due.